The world seems to be speeding up with every passing year. Schedules are more booked by the day, and down time is seen as idleness. There is a compulsory need to acquire more stuff and work harder for these upgrades. On top of this, beauty standards leave us feeling disconnected from our true essence. All of the above keeps us in our heads, and ultimately leaves us disembodied.
What is the remedy to the anxiety that our fast paced, looks based society pushes on us? Embodiment.
When I refer to being “in your body,” I mean you are truly in the moment with yourself. You are feeling your feelings without over-analyzing them or being reactive. You are not thinking about the past or the future, you are simply with yourself right now. This takes you out of a reactive and closed-hearted space and leaves you feeling open and receptive.
When you are in a receptive state, you are sending signals that you’re ready for your desires to come to you.
Women hold wisdom in our bodies. That’s why we’re naturals at communication, knowledge, and intuition. When you are in tune with this wisdom, you drown out the noise of the world. You will become less susceptible to other people’s influence. You will stop second guessing choices or doubting yourself. Becoming grounded in your intuition and unlocking the wisdom you hold will keep you living in a heart connected space.
There are times when you might feel disembodied and not even realize it. The tell tale signs of disembodiment are feeling like an outsider looking in on yourself or scrutinizing yourself. Getting lost in your thoughts or having difficulty sleeping are signs of disembodiment. Worrying about the future, or ruminating about the past is disembodiment. But these anxieties and worries are not truly who we are.
It is not your fault if you are feeling disembodied, it’s the result of societal conditioning over a long period of time.
Connecting with your heart and staying intentional over time will get you into your body. This will take time and patience; if you’re so used to living in your head, it can feel like you’re stuck there. Realize that new habits, new ways of being take time and patience to form. So be gentle with yourself.
There will be times when you’ll be tempted to harden your heart. People will trigger you, intentionally or unintentionally. Gone are the days when you simply turn off the news channel; now all you have to do is open your phone. Life presents challenges. But there is strength in remaining soft, not just in good times but in difficult times too. It’s okay to be strong but build an armor around yourself. It’s okay to be soft too.
“The true mind can weather all the lies and illusions without being lost.
The true heart can tough the poison of hatred without being harmed.
Since beginning-less time, darkness thrives in the void, but always yields to purifying light.”
― Lion turtle, Avatar: The Last Airbender
The truest way to become embodied is to stay connected to your heart. You become more grounded in your intuition when you stay with a connected heart instead of closed off. You will know you are living in a heart connected way when you don’t second guess your decisions or feel the need to think through everything. This does not mean becoming impulsive or careless; it means you trust yourself and refer to your own wisdom in order to live your best life.
All of the above comes from a place of self love which is about nurturing yourself, treating yourself with respect, and giving yourself what you need. You wouldn’t subject a child to people who intentionally upset them, so why do that to yourself? You wouldn’t continually show a child the news channel with all its violence, so why would you show that to yourself? You wouldn’t talk down to a child so why talk down to yourself?
Your mind is your home, so be careful of what you allow in your home. Your body is the only one you have in this life, so take care of it the same way you would take care of a child.
It’s not selfish to take care of yourself. It’s not mean to set boundaries with people or distance yourself from those who harm you. Giving yourself a rest when you need it doesn’t make you lazy. In fact, all of the above are signs of strength. Nurturing yourself will allow you to get out of your head in all its anxieties, and into your body in all its softness.
The first step to becoming embodied is self love. Self love means loving and accepting yourself with where you’re at in the present moment. When you connect with the present moment, you connect with your breath which gets you into your body.
Let’s be gentle with ourselves and allow softness to flow in order to become a magnet to our desires.